Distorted

10 Jun

Don’t Correct And Criticize Others – Let Them Do It Themselves

“Why is it that folks feel they have a right to criticize and correct others?” I asked Ed, my old neighbor in Saskatchewan. Ed believes that it may be genetic as everyone seems to have a critical streak in them from childhood to old age. Children accuse parents of being able to find fault with them anywhere or at any time. Parents accuse teens of having an insatiable enthusiasm for criticizing everyone and everything. Most people end up blaming themselves from time to time. Politicians spend their lives criticizing each other. Ed summed up his opinions on criticizing by saying that everyone likes to correct and criticize others, but they do not want to be corrected or criticized themselves.

William Telle famous for shooting an apple off the top of his son’s head in1307 is reported to have said: “Our present time is a criticizing and critical time.” I think that today, 2019 might also be described as a critical time. We are entitled to our own opinions, but our thoughts are not necessarily right except for ourselves. We can share our views but must not be surprised if someone wants to criticize them.

Beyond Reach

31 May

No Need To Strive For Impossible Perfection

Ed, my old neighbor in Saskatchewan, does not want to hear about my stupid gardens. He feels gardens are responsible for things the world could do without. Ed has no interest in flowers. Maybe he is color blind? He says that other than potatoes, vegetables are not needed. Only apple, cherry, and peach fruit trees are okay. He told me yesterday the fact that we have had lettuce, radishes, spinach, peas, and two strawberries off our garden is too dull to hear about, and I need to get a life away from my gardens. Life is not dull or boring in the garden.

Sometimes I feel that I need to get away from my gardens too as once I go in them, there is always more to do than I have time and energy to get done. Weeds wait for no gardener, they attack twenty-four-seven. Shrubs and hedges often need a hair cut. Gardens go to the extremes of too wet or too dry. Certain plants show that you have over watered them and get sick in spitefulness.

Mental Health Week

24 May

You Are Not The Only One Who Claims To Be Sane

There has always been lots of discussion about the state of our mental health. Ed, my old neighbor claims most folks are a little wacky or have at least one screw loose. He claims that you will see this, regularly, in our families, at work, at school, and in our neighborhoods. My old neighbor steers away from words like deranged, and insane because they are too severe to mention flippantly. Most of us, according to Ed, admit to being, a little crazy because that is normal behavior.

Not so many of us are comfortable admitting we have issues with our mental health. I told Ed; that hopefully, that is changing, and people are becoming more open about discussing their struggle with depression or stress and other mental health issues. Mental Health Week celebrated each year helps us to go beyond jokes and denial when it comes to mental health concerns.

Words Meant To Wound

16 May

Words Have The Power To Discredit Us Falsely

Ed, my old neighbor in Saskatchewan, likes to label folks. He says everyone is into name calling. He claims it was one of the useful things that he learned in school. One kid at high school was as tall as a giraffe and was called Stretch. My old neighbor said if I had been there, I would have been called Minnow. When I asked Ed what his nickname was at school, he confessed it was yappy. He felt that he did not talk a lot; he was not annoying like a noisy dog.

When we call someone a name, it can go both ways. It can be accepted or rejected. Sometimes we go beyond what is okay to what is untrue. I am old, so you can call me old, but don’t call me senile. Some folks dismiss all old people as being senile. Not every person who goes to church is a hypocrite. Not every high school student is using drugs. We need to be careful what we say about others because our words have the power to hurt or discredit others falsely.

Found

8 May

You Find The Lost When It Is Too Late

I had a gym card and lost it. It vanished like a ghost never to be seen again, it seemed. To replace the card, it cost me five dollars. Once I had paid for a replacement, I shuffled some books on my desk, and there was my lost gym card waving hello to me.

Ed, my old neighbor, had no sympathy for me as he said, “That is just the first time you have lost that card, you are forever losing keys, glasses, cards, and even your ball cap.” When you want a little encouragement, it is hard to find.

On The Trail Again

8 May

Going Where Thousands Have Gone Before

Ed, my old neighbor from Saskatchewan, and I are planning a trip to the various spots, gold was discovered here in B.C. From 1850 -1899 gold was found in multiple areas of the colony of British Columbia, so there is no shortage of gold strike places to see and explore including some fascinating ghost towns.

Forest Fires last year shut our plans down, but this year we are hoping to explore the Cariboo Gold Rush sites. We will be tourists along with others following the gold rush routes into the heart of the province. Our travel by car will be comfortable through mountain highways, no hard deed to accomplish.